Scrub a dub

Mike refuses to give Diva a bath and for some reason I am unable to just let it go. It pisses me off every damn time! One of the reasons I believe that my second marriage is so much better than my first is my ability to let things go. Some may say I don't sweat the small stuff, but I prefer not to sweat at all so, I'm not a fan of that saying. I have become remarkably good at biting my tongue until I either realize that it never really mattered that much or I see/hear something that makes me so grateful for my life that I can't help but move past my anger. This works remarkably well in keeping the peace but doesn't really do much for my neck and shoulder muscles.

Mike has never given me any reason for this denial of duty before and so I always tried to give him the benefit of the doubt by assuming he didn't want to admit that he was afraid. This always seemed a little silly as he knows my track record and nearly drowning our children but it was all I could come up with. Unfortunately it seems that his reason is far less noble. He's too grossed out to give his daughter a bath. He thinks it's icky. He really dislikes the idea of sitting in a tub of water to the point that he cannot watch someone else do it and would be horrified if I took a bath and then came to bed without showering quickly. I honestly think that his 'aversions' to things are beyond ridiculous at this point and there are days that I really just want to tell him to grow the fuck up and get over it. Onions aren't going to kill you, corn is not the enemy, and wood isn't the devil. I spend half my time while grocery shopping or menu planning trying to decide what will and won't set off one of his many issues.

In his defense, he's very good about just making his own dinner if he doesn't approve of what I've made, but then he never sits down to eat with the rest of the family (which is a post unto itself). Do you have picky eaters in your house? Can you buy cooking utensils without having to decide if it's going to make your husband throw up? Do you ever tell them to just shove it?